TRAVEL ADVICE TO THE ADVENTUROUS SOULS.

I'm quite the traveler myself. I take it as a way to unwind and forget my life's miseries though temporarily. For the longest time, I had the uncanny habit of forgetting essential travel things and I had to incur extra costs purchasing such items. In some cases, I had to forgo buying some things during my trip because I had forgotten my credit or debit card. My experience among other things has made me qualified to write this article.


So when you go out and travel, what do you do prior, during or after your trip? Worry not, I am going to educate you.


1. Organize yourself prior to the trip

I cannot stress how important it is to get your things in order prior to your trip, probably the day before. This is important for you not to forget things you may need during your excursion. Trying to pack on the day you are bound to travel subjects you to unnecessary stress, and can make you disoriented. Therefore, the chances of you forgetting essential items are so high.


2. Do not overpack

What I'm implying is that you pack according to the duration of your stay. There is no sense of carrying a lot luggage for a week's trip. Furthermore ,there is a greater chance of misplacing items as well as losing track of your bags altogether.


3. Carry important documents

Never forget to carry documents such as your ID or Passport. Such items are important for you to get admittance to hotels, national parks or other tourist areas.


4. Be time conscious

There is nothing as horrible as not keeping time. Failure to do this can have terrible consequences for instance missing flights, or cruise ships etc. In the end you may end up incurring more expenses, massive delays, or cancelling the trip altogether. This is a traveler's worst nightmare. Be vigilant, have ample time to do everything. Stick to a schedule. You'll thank me later!


5. Take souvenirs

A souvenir is one of the best ways to remember an experience. Take as much pictures as you can, purchase Items. Let them be a way to treasure memories.


6. Enjoy yourself

Let loose, forget your troubles. This is one of the most therapeutic actions you'll ever make. However, do not over indulge in activities such as binge drinking, or you may clash with authorities for being drunk and disorderly.

7. Do an inventory of your items before checking out

It is important to ensure that you make an inventory of all the things you came with to avoid leaving them behind. Give yourself ample time to go over everything, then checkout of your hotel room if you are fully satisfied.


What other travel advice can you think of ? Let me know in the comment section below.

4 MAJOR REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LEAD A SIMPLE LIFE.

I never understood the fuss about leading a simple life until I read a very interesting article called ‘The science of simplicity: Why successful people wear the same thing everyday’ by John Haltiwanger.  I happened to have stumble upon it by mistake, and I must say that found it to be a very interesting read.

In the article, the  author implies that we human beings waste so many precious moments by concerning ourselves with frivolous details. Frivolous details are things have no any real sense of purpose.  Myself I agree with his sentiments, largely because we tend to waste time on activities that make absolutely no sense. For instance, wasting time in the morning trying to pick out the perfect shoe for work, and yet this time could be spared for doing something constructive.

It is so sad that we have been reduced to superficiality. We care about how others perceive us so we tend to spend a large duration of our time trying to create or maintain a certain image. In real sense, what if we spent that time focusing on projects, or undertaking tasks? The impact we could make would be phenomenal. Furthermore, there are far more important things to worry about.

It is interesting how we human being spend most of our time acquiring material possessions. We crave the latest shoe design, the trendiest clothes, watches etc. But the sad truth is that they come and go. Their relevance fade with time. In the end, you will notice that you will never have achieved any sense of fulfilment. So why bother? Do not get me wrong, I am not stating that you should not indulge in worldly pleasure. All I am saying is that It is useless to focus all your time on materialistic stuff. You could for instance use such cash for activities that bring transformative results to yourself or society.

Allow me to backtrack back to the article and talk about an interesting concept brought about by the article called decision fatigue. Decision fatigue is a condition whereby productivity suffers as a result  of becoming mentally exhausted brought about by making so many irrelevant decisions. Basically, the author seems to imply that stressing over small things makes you less efficient at work. Once again, I agree with his sentiments. Reason being, I have witnessed first hand how in some instances I have focused my time and energy in tasks that were of meaningful value, to the point whereby I was too tired to execute activities that had beneficial properties to my life.

In my opinion I have found that simplicity is a sign of humility. For instance take the case of Mahatma Gandhi. He was a very importance figure in the Indian society who lived a very simple life. Humility earns you immense respect in society as well as trust from many people. In so doing, you are able to build beneficial relationships with others. Such relationships could make your life progress in ways that you could never imagine.

In summary, here are 4 major reasons why you should lead  simple life.

•To save time, and spend time on things that matter.

•Possessions are just vain, they come and go.

•To become less stressed since you do not sweat on the small life.

•As a sign of humility. Humility earns you trust, respect and can make your life progress in the right direction.

What are the other reasons why you should lead a simple life? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO DITCH FRIENDS?

Friendships can form bonds even stronger than that between family members. However, there comes a time when one decides to cut off toxic friends from their lives. It is an eventuality that many people have to face. Its a cycle of life.

But when do you know it is the right time to ditch these toxic friends? Here are some of the tell-tale signs.

•When friends do not add value to your life

We all have those friends who do not add any valuable input to our lives. Instead they drag you behind and in so doing, you may not realize your full potential. Kick them to the curb, you never know, it may be the best decision you’ll ever make.

•When they become disloyal

Loyalty is one of the greatest virtues appreciated in a friendship. It is a bond that bring people closer by developing a sense of trust. For instance when a friend breaks this trust either by doing shady things towards you, or talking behind your back kick them to the curb.

•Bad peer influence

This is another justifiable reason to ditch toxic friends. These ill-mannered people do nothing but add trouble to your life. Their cons out way their pros, so what’s the need to keeping such people around?

•Failure to stand with you through trying times

This is the ultimate test of friendship. A person who cannot stand with you in times of need is not truly your friend. A good friend will always be there to lend a helping hand. Be ready to cut off some friends  if they abscond you during trying times, they are not worth keeping anyway.

•When they form a habit of Keeping ‘receipts’

A friend who keeps a record of your ‘wrong-doings’ is not worth keeping. Beware of warning signs for instance, such person  unveiling intimate conversations, that are shared in confidence to the public whenever you have an altercation. Take this seriously, and ditch such a person before things turn for the worst.

This is my 2 cents on this issue. What would make you ditch a toxic friend?, let me know in the comments below.

DISPELLING IGNORANCE- THE PERCEPTION OF AFRICA THROUGH WESTERN EYES.

“You think the only people who are people, are the people who look and think like you. But if you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you’ll learn things you never knew, you never knew” lyrics from the song colours of the wind by Vanessa Williams.

Colours of the wind is a timeless song that highlights among other things, the importance of not passing judgment from the periphery out of sheer ignorance. Instead, the song advocates that in order to understand a person, take an interest in what they do and try to understand why.  You might end up learning a thing or two! With this in mind, allow me to discuss an issue that has been on my mind for a quite a while.

A few days ago, I happened to have received an ignorant tweet from a random guy on twitter. It happened as we were deliberating about American politics specifically about the Trump administration. I guess he was offended after I mentioned that President Trump’s new tariff towards Mexico was undermining the USMCA (United States- Mexico- Canada Agreement). He stated that I go back and deal with ‘african problems’ and stop meddling with issues concerning the developed world since they were beyond me. The tone of that statement was off, and I felt belittled due to the mere fact that I come from a certain part of the world. The aim was obviously to put me down and ‘put me in my place’. However, what saddened me was the fact that this individual was an afrodescendant, so I expected him to have a bit of respect for the motherland (Africa). Our conversation disintegrated after this, as I felt no need to keep it going.

What comes to your mind when you think of Africa?

Let me guess

•Poverty

•Diseases

•Illiteracy

•Famine

•Ethnic wars

•Tribalism

•Corruption

•Cannibalism

•Wildlife

The list is endless, but the things mentioned above are some of the notions held in the minds of people in the western world. However, Africa is beyond this idiotic portrayal perpetuated specifically by the Western media.

Africa is a beautiful continent with vast amount of resources, however, I cannot ignore its bad share of leaders over the years. Bad governance and poor leadership isn’t an African problem, both vices are widespread across the globe. There is no reason to undermine a person from certain part of the world as a result of where they come from. Many people do not realise that there are  so many Africans who come from affluent backgrounds that are even better than those found in the Western world.

It does sadden me that the world prefers to see this hunger-stricken and impoverished continent whereas disregarding progress Africa has made. Things are changing here, many people have access to education and turn their life around. People now have access to good healthcare, and  go on vacation from time to time. Top range vehicles, high-end shopping malls, and posh estates are sprouting rapidly throughout the cities.

This is not the Africa you know of. Dictatorships are now falling, and the whole concept of democracy is being embraced. Human rights groups are comfortably finding their place in the continent without intimidation by governments. Women’s rights as well as representation are championed by a vast majority.

What can be done to dispel this ignorance?

•A quick internet search will help you dispel weird notions about Africa. There are great articles, forums or even YouTube channels that disseminate useful information about the continent.

•Branch out and seek some African friends. It may seem like a longshot but try seeking African themed events in your locality. Network in such places. See life in a different perspective.

•Visit Africa. This is arguably the best way to dispel ignorance because you will experience everything first hand.

As I conclude, being African is not something to be ashamed of, but it is something that should be embraced.

5 WAYS ON HOW TO MONETIZE YOUR HOBBY

Do you know that you can turn things that you enjoy into a thriving money making tool! It is all about playing your cards right and everything will fall into place. Afterall, It doesn't hurt to earn an extra dollar here and there!

Here are 5 ways in which you turn your hobby into a money making business.

• Create a blog

A  blog is a wonderful platform in which you can create awareness of your hobby. It is a way of letting readers know why you enjoy what you do, so that they can follow suit. Remember though to advertise via social media in order to reach a wider scope of people. Through this blog, you can create an online course as well as sell ad-space.

• Write an E-book

The digital age has been gracious to people of our generation by the mere fact that one can create an E-book to disseminate information that can reach wider audiences. You can sell your Ebook via platforms such as Amazon Kindle or even through your own website.

• Create a Youtube channel

Youtube is a great platform of letting your product or service be known. Take this platform as a chance to connect with your audience by sharing your hobby with them. Remember to be genuine though. Offer tutorials on the various hobbies you enjoy. In so doing you attract a wider audience. Youtube pays via advertisements, product sponsorships as well as per the number of views generated.

•Offer face to face lessons.

This method is essential in places where it is convenient to meet with would-be clients. It however entails coming up with a kind of syllabus which is tough. But do not despair. Obviously you make money from your clients since these lessons are charged at a fee.

• Offer consultation services

You may decide to serve as a source of information to interested parties by acting as a consultant. A consultant is basically a guide and in this case you would make a pretty good one by the fact that you have heavily invested your time in perfection of your hobby.

Do not despair if you do not make money right away. Things take time to fall in place. Patience is key. 

Leave a comment if you can, let me know of your thoughts. 

THE TOXIC ‘CANCEL’ CULTURE- WHY IT MUST END

The cancel culture is a popular term used to describe the act of discrediting a popular person through the interweb. It is the epitome of cyber bullying, and often involves staging an exposé through various platforms such as social media, print media or through dedicated blogs. The end goal is to tarnish the image of such a person in the eyes of his or her audience.

Recently, a popular YouTube sensation was a victim of this cancel culture. It all went down when his best friend made a video on her YouTube channel exposing him. She talked about how he was a sexual predator. The video went viral after a few days, and garnered over 40 million videos. Other YouTubers, blogs and the twitter community jumped on the bandwagon further fueling the story. It blew out of proportion. Fake stories emerged left right and center of how he used to sexually molest other people. Sadly, he lost over 3 million subscribers in a few days, and quite a number of high level celebrities unfollowed him on his social media platforms. I’m certain that he also lost quite a number of sponsorship deals. His bread and butter was on the verge of extinction.

The sole reason for this anger was because this YouTube sensation promoted product from his best friend’s rival brand and felt betrayed. This anger made her that disparaging YouTube video. What she never expected was the impact in which it left. The hatred that was spread across the internet was above and beyond human comprehension. It was disgusting. Luckily he was able to salvage his career by revealing how this best friend had twisted the story in her favor. As of writing this article, he is gaining subscribers. But his reputation will not recover anytime soon. That title of being labelled as a 'sexual predator' will stick with him forever.

Let’s take a step back and discuss why does a person get cancelled.

What are the reasons behind the cancel culture?

· Jealousy- This I believe is a core reason. For instance one party gets offended that the other party is doing better maybe at business or career wise. So this party fabricates a story that tarnish the image of the other.

· Hatred- This is yet another reason why one party would want to ‘cancel’ another. For instance, you may feel resentment towards a person for actions they have been doing unto you over time. This harbored resentment may reach a critical limit whereby you decide enough is enough, and you expose that individual online.

· ‘Clout’ chasing- Clout is a terminology used to refer to a situation whereby one is seeking some sort of recognition by being allied to a famous person or situation. Clout chasing is very common, and there are people to take advantage of drama to propel their social standing. They get involved in drama or feuds that do not concern them.

· Jumping on the bandwagon- This is an act of doing something because others are doing it. Various people online suffer from this condition. As a result, a person’s reputation maybe dragged in the mud on various social media outlets by people who have no personal affiliation to them. Its a very disgusting habit.

What are the effects of the cancel culture?

· Tarnished reputation- This toxic cancel culture can make a person’s reputation suffer irreversible damage. A tarnished reputation can take a toll on various aspects of your life including your self-esteem.

· Emotional distress – This is as a result of people damaging your reputation, sending you all manner of insults and in some cases death threats. Your mental health would be affected, and quite a number of people would find themselves in situations whereby they get depressed, and in some cases it may escalate to suicide.

· Losing friends- This is a no-brainer effect since few people would want to be associated with someone who has a tarnished reputation.

· Financial repercussions- Unfortunately, a tarnished reputation may make one to lose his or her job since they can be perceived as a threat, or being affiliated to this person may be seen as damaging to a brand. In the long run, one may lose their source of livelihood thus facing financial constraints.

· Safety issues – Sadly, many of these ‘cancelled’ people cannot go out in public out of fear they maybe attacked, or worse off their families.

My closing remarks would be that if you have any issues with a person, doing it privately. You can as well find common ground through an intermediary, and solve your issues quietly. There is no sense of dragging someone in public, and ruin their lives. It is definitely not worth it.

What are your thoughts on this issues? Leave a comment below.

REDEFINING THE ESSENCE OF MUSIC

Music is food for the soul. It has such intense power that brings together people of various races and creed. Music has brought about revolutions, as well as unity in many parts of the world. On the downside it has also caused destruction as a result of people using the platform to perpetrate hatred by using vile lyrics.  

I write this article with a kind of bitterness which stems from the fact that music in this day and age has lost its footing. It is no longer palatable. Vile lyrics and distasteful music videos have dominated the airwaves. Music nowadays seems to serve the purpose of degrading, insulting, spreading hatred as well as glorifying activities such as gang violence. However,I am seeking to redefine the essence of music back to its glory days .I take this opportunity to remind people what the  purpose of music in the world is:

•To heal- Music is a platform that can be used to bring a sense of healing after a tough break up, or even the death of a loved one. It should be a place to give you hope, consolation as well as raise your spirits.

•To educate- I miss music in its glory days when it was used as a platform to educate people on various life issues. For instance, how to get over a difficult situation, how to handle loss of a loved one, how to appreciate the culture and tradition of various people across the world

•To rebuke- Music can also serve the purpose of rebuking social evils like rape, taking drugs. Sadly, nowadays, it seems that all mainstream music does is to glorify people who partake in the social evils I have mentioned earlier through vile lyrics and music videos.

•To entertain- It is not a secret that one of the purposes of releasing a record is for people to enjoy. It is meant to give people a good time, whereby they can temporarily forget about their troubles.

•To vent- Through song, one can easily vent and in so doing it can act as a form of therapy. Contemporary artists who use this method include Adele and Eminem.

•To seek forgiveness- The power of song cannot be underestimated when it comes to the purpose of asking for forgiveness. Songs can be used to admit guilt, and in so doing provide an avenue in which you can better yourself. Very few artists of our generation have mastered this craft for example the rock band Daughtry in their song 'Its not over'.

I do not intend to degrade any individual by passing judgement on their choice, and style of music. What I seek is to educate people on how to improve the quality of music they make or listen to.

Give me your thoughts my dear readers by leaving a comment below.

5 TIPS ON HOW TO OVERCOME LAZINESS

Laziness is a disease that plagues us all. Its negative effects take toll on our day to day lives. For instance, laziness has made me miss out on great opportunities ,lose friends as well as get in trouble. Other consequences of laziness include:

•Getting behind in paying bills

•Missing out on important meetings as well as exams

•Failing to meet deadlines

•You can as well get fired for laxity at work

Luckily, It is not inherent, it is something that we have placed upon ourselves, and therefore it can be eliminated. Eliminating laziness helps you become productive, as well as avoid the consequences that I have mentioned earlier.

Here are 5 tips on how to overcome laziness

•Plan your day- It is essential to plan your schedule on a calendar so as to know what to do, and at what time. In so doing, you won’t laze around aimlessly trying to figure out what to do.

•Set out goals- This tip is related to the first one. It is essential to know what exactly you are supposed to do. You should also know what you plan to accomplish by the end of the day. Goal setting lives minimal room to leisure around without any sense of direction.

•Find activities that interest you- It is wise to capitalize on your hobbies. Such hobbies can excite you and keep you motivated. Motivation eliminates boredom which in turn curbs laziness.

•Get out of your comfort zone- Continuous repetition of activities generates  boredom which encourages laziness. So get out of your comfort zone and try out new things. You never know, you may discover your passion which can make you anxious to wake up every morning.

•Change scenery- A change is as good as a rest. You may discover that the environment you live in harbours laziness. It is therefore essential to get out of such a situation for example by ditching friends who never seem to let you grow. These friends are a hindrance towards your potential, and instead drag you down with them.

I hope someone somewhere will find my tips useful.

I would like to hear your thoughts my dear readers. You can send an email, or you can as  well leave a comment below.

10 ESSENTIAL TIPS ON HOW TO ACE A TEST

The very thought of doing an examination gives people a lot of shivers. Personally, every time an exam paper was placed upon my desk, my heart would race and I would get the sweats in all the wrong places. Thank God, I’m done with school so no more tests for me, Hurray! For those in school, worry no more, I am here at your beck and call to guide you. I will be here with you every step of the way. However, I don’t think that I am qualified enough to give you tips but as a person who has aced a lot of tests-not to brag- I have a few tricks up my sleeve that I can share with you.

The 10 tips on how to ace a test are:

•Have a study plan- This is a crucial step because it makes you organized. Essentially, you should create a time table showing what to read, and at what time. A study plan helps you to discover what you have and have not read. In so doing, you will have covered a lot of coursework thus making you ready for that exam.

•Avoid distractions- It is very essential for you to avoid people or activities that will sway your mind from your studies. In so doing, you become focused with all your concentration towards passing that test.

•Take short notes as you study- This method is one of my favourites. As you take notes, you increase your chances of comprehension. You are also more likely to remember what you wrote down which is an important thing when tackling a test.

•Create mnemonics- A mnemonic is a tool that helps you remember. It can be a rhyme, a phrase, an acronym, or a song that helps you to remember certain concepts. You will thank me later after passing that exam!

•Stop last minute studying- Procrastination is a disease that plagues most learners. A good number of us keep putting things off till the last minute. Unfortunately studying at the last minute makes you confused since you cannot grasp all the concepts in a limited time frame. In the long run you find yourself unprepared for that test. Word of advice, is that you should start study from the onset of the semester to give yourself ample time to prepare for a test.

•Take practise tests- A practice test gets you ready because it mimics the scenario of the forthcoming exam. These tests can help you identify probable questions that may come in the exam.

•Revise past papers- In school, there is a tendencies of some teachers ‘recycling’ old examinations. In the end you may discover that the questions in the past papers from the previous years, will be found in your present examination. That would be a plus for you if you had gone through such papers. Past papers also make you familiarize with the way certain tutors ask their examinations. That would definitely be a plus for you.

•Ask questions- Seeking clarification by asking questions is a good way to improve your understanding of various concepts. When you understand them, you will find the exam very easy to do.

•Sleep early on the day prior to the test- A good night’s rest makes you refreshed and ready to sit the exam with confidence.

•Keep your self calm and collected before, and as you sit the exam- It is essential to keep your nerves in check to keep yourself from panicking. Panicking can make you forget all that you have learnt. It can make you fail the exam miserably. Remember to take a breath when faced with tough questions. You can as well leave such questions for a while and come back to them when you mind is clearer.

I hope that I have assisted someone through the tips I have listed above. Leave a comment to let me know your thoughts.

5 TIPS HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVITY

Ever since I started this blog, I have been dealing with quite a number of ‘Keyboard Warriors’. These are people who hide behind their computer and phone screens, and spew vile messages online. In some way, I felt affected and was a bit down. But then it dawned on me, that these people are just projecting their cooped up anger towards me. They are more disturbed than I am.

This brings me to this segment whereby I will discuss on some useful tips on how to deal with negativity, they are as follows:

· Avoid toxic environments- For this scenario, I am focusing mainly on the people who surround you. For instance, if you are surrounded by people who regularly bring you down, your life will be constant hell. My advice is that you should find a means to get away for the sake of your sanity.

· Ignore negative sentiments- Looking past, and shrugging off negative sentiments is a wonderful option. Negative sentiments directed towards you can affect your self-esteem, and your overall productivity. Do not dwell much on what people have to say about you. As long as they are not paying your bills, their words are nothing but empty.

· Keep away from triggers- For instance, you may discover that most of the negative energy stems from a particular source like a social media platform. I would urge you to keep way. Close that account if need be. Your sanity is more important than those likes .

· Find people who build you- It is essential to surround yourself with people who positively impact your life. These people build yourself esteem which serves as an armor to protect you from all the negative energy.

· Motivate yourself- The solution to some problems can always come from within oneself. Therefore find a hobby or some activity that you enjoy. A sense of self fulfilment builds your ego, to a point whereby you can deal with negative sentiments head on. At such a point, you deem yourself invincible and nothing or no one can bring you down.

I encourage you guys to share your stories with me via email. I would be honored to hear from you.

Have a lovely day!

DEBUNKING MYTHS ON HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT

In this day and age of social media, having the ‘perfect’ body is in vogue. This concept of being perfect, has been created by a myriad of well-toned Instagram models who have redefined beauty in a very toxic way. The allure of them having thousand of followers has made us idolize them. We subconsciously want to live their flashy lifestyles with all the money, the cars, the fame as well as their bodies. Sadly, this idolization comes with a ton of issues one of them being body image. Body image issues take a toll on someone’s self esteem especially if you do not fit into the ideal body type.

In light of these, there are people who go to great lengths especially to try and lose weight. They do a lot of research either online or through their friends to try and lose a few pounds. Some of the research they do, make them land on dubious information. Let me take this opportunity to enlighten you my dear readers.

Here a few myths surrounding the whole concept of weight loss.

·         Starving yourself is the ultimate weight loss trick- This I may say is a total hoax. Starvation only harms the body. Yes there are people who lose weight through this method but at a great cost of their health. Some go to the extent of being hospitalized since they become severely malnourished. It is just not worth it. I recommend that you watch your potions. That is the ultimate weight loss trick.

·         Only exercise can help you lose weight- This concept is not entirely true. Exercise has to be merged with other practices. For example watching your food potions, as well as cutting back on fatty foods. There are people who exercise but still consume calories they did before. Such folks end up not making much progress.

·         Slimming pills are a great remedy towards losing weight- This notion has spread like fire since the advent of and social media. There are endless advertisements on most of these social media platforms. It is unfortunate to say that a great number of these pills are placebos, and you may end up getting conned if you purchase them. Others are black-market pills that may adversely affect your health. Please avoid them as much as possible.

·         A no-carb diet can make you lose weight- It is certainly untrue that avoiding carbs will make you lose those extra kilos. Furthermore, carbs are energy giving foods. Do not avoid them entirely. As I said before, just watch your potions.

·         Purging is the only sure way for you to slim- Purging in this context is the act of make yourself vomit after eating. Sadly this act is detrimental to your health, however, you can certainly lose weight but at very dangerous rates. Most victims are adolescent youth, who are pressured into this vice by their peers or ‘influencers’ in the print and digital media. Purging is a very common symptom of bulimia. It not only affects your physical health but also your mental state.

*Disclaimer- This article is not meant to pass judgement onto those who subscribe to the above said beliefs. Its purpose is to educate on better and safer ways of losing weight.

In conclusion, I would like to say that we should be happy with the way we look, flaws and all. Lose that weight only for you, and not some weirdly held belief that you may have heard.

Leave a comment so I can know your thoughts on this issue.

HOW TO SPOT TOXICITY IN YOUR LOVE LIFE- 5 MAJOR RED FLAGS

People say that love is blind, but sadly I have never believed that rhetoric. In my opinion, I do not see how this strong infatuation-as I call it- can possess someone to a point whereby you cannot see the ills of another. I believe giving people a pass on the wrongs they do is a choice.

Since the beginning of this year, I have witnessed 10 gruesome murders where I come from. The all had one common denominator. They were all crimes of passion. 7 of them were cases where by men butchered their wives or girlfriends, and the remaining 3 were cases whereby women killed their lovers. Reasons stemmed from alleged infidelity or money issues among other things.

I believe that there is not enough reason to end the life of another human being. In light of this I decided in my own small way to contribute by means of educating my small audience. The question is how do you recognize that you are in a toxic love affair?

Here are the 5 major red flags.

· Having a controlling partner- This is the first major red flag. There are partners to attempt to micromanage every aspect of your life. For instance, they may not allow you to wear certain kinds of clothing or even restrict you from holding any kind of job. Such control freaks become enraged whenever things are not going their way. It is wise to walk away before things escalate. Such a person is a ticking time bomb.

· Breakdown in communication- Having an open but honest dialogue with you partner is healthy in any relationship. This is because you are able to know what you partner is thinking, and how to express feelings in case you feel that you are not on the same page. Absence of communication creates a sense of distrust to either parties. In the long run, this relationship is a bother to your emotional well-being. It is not worth it.

· Neglect- It is one of the tell-tale signs that your relationship is taking a turn for the worst. There are partners who simply have pulled back and become withdrawn. They simply do not care about you anymore. Some have gone to the extent of absconding parental responsibilities in the case that you have sired children with them. This situation many of the times is salvageable, but there are instances whereby you see it useless to flog a dead horse. So you simply leave for the sake of your sanity.

· Having an abusive partner- Abuse can be physical or mental. Both forms are terrible. An abusive partner has the intent of causing harm to you. They degrade your very existence by tearing you piece by piece and they derive pleasure from it. In this case, run as fast as you can when you spot such tendencies. A leopard never changes its spots, It will take a miracle for these abusive partners to reform.

· Cheating- It is an obvious sign of toxicity in love. In my book, the act of infidelity is the greatest form of disrespect towards your partner. It shows that you do not value them, you just want to take them for a ride. Get out of such a relationship for the sake your dignity, and your mental health of course.

What are your thoughts on this article? Don’t hesitate to leave a comment. Thank you.

MENTAL HEALTH, AND THE STIGMA SURROUNDING IT.

It is very unfortunate that in this day and age, there is stigma surrounding mental health issues. Very many people would prefer to suffer in silence than seek help. It is very sad though. Today, I have taken this platform to speak on this matter, specifically addressing the mental health condition, Bipolar. Bipolar is a manic-depressive condition that causes mood fluctuations that can last for several weeks at a time. Individuals suffering from such conditions may end up committing suicide If they are left untreated.

Sadly here in Africa, It is not a well known condition. Many people refer to it as "seasonal madness". Very many individuals suffering from this condition end up being locked up in their houses. They suffer more because they poorly fed, and live in unsanitary condition where they are prone to contacting diseases.Society isolates them because it is said that they have been bewitched. Furthermore, few people would want to be associated with afflicted individuals because they are worried about how others would perceive them. This inhumane treatment stems out of ignorance.

I know of a close friend of mine suffering from this condition. At first nobody knew what he was suffering from, his parents thought he was just acting out- the typical teenage attention-seeking antics. So he was taken to local church for counseling as well as prayer to "cast out his demons". However, nothing worked. His parents decided to take him to hospital when one day, he almost committed suicide after taking a bunch of pills. His folks thought he was depressed, but the doctor informed them that their child might have been bipolar based on what they narrated to him. A series of physical, lab, and psychiatric tests confirmed his diagnosis.

It is now ten years down the line, my friend is okay. He takes his medication religiously. His manic episodes are now a thing of the past. As a matter of fact, he has taken an initiative to educate the community of this little known mental condition. In my own small way, let me educate you readers on how to recognize bipolar disorder, and how to go about it. The signs may include the following:

· Euphoria- intense feeling of well-being or happiness

· Depression

· Restlessness or feeling agitated

· Anger, Aggression

· Insomnia

How to go about this condition, is by taking the affected person to hospital. Treatment is mainly through therapy as well as taking medication. Medication for bipolar is taken throughout an individual's life since there is no known exact cure. Medication is necessary to stabilize moods and control manic episodes.

I always believe in disseminating useful information to create awareness, as well as help even if it is just that one person who may gain access to my blog. Mental illness is not a curse, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Speak up, let people listen. You never know the impact you could be having on a person suffering from a similar condition.

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WHAT REALLY IS THE RIGHT AGE OF CONSENT?

Matters relating to sexual consent has been in a hot topic in Kenya, which is my birthplace. This stems after the Court of Appeal-one of Kenya’s highest court- made a ruling which advised that the age of consent be lowered from 18 to 16. The reason for such a ruling was made in light of many men languishing in jail after impregnating teenage girls that could be considered as “adults”. These men were charge with defilement which is a serious crime in Kenya where perpetrator can garner life imprisonment.

The big question still remains, Is Kenya ready for this? Very many parents voiced their opinions online and they were furious. This is in light of a report in November 2018, that showed that 1 in every 5 girls in Kenya gets pregnant between the ages of 15 to 19. This is catastrophic for a country. It begs the question that if age of consent was lowered, how bad would the situation be?

Maybe I am jumping the gun here. Lets look at the situation objectively. What are the pros of lowering the age of sexual consent?

· Fewer people would languish in prison for defilement based charges.

On the other hand, what are the cons of lowering the age of sexual consent?

· Rise in teenage pregnancies that make many girls drop out of school so that they can raise their young

· Teenage girls who get pregnant are highly likely to develop problems during childbirth since their reproductive organs are not well developed. Complications such as fistula are more prevalent in these girls. Fistula is a hole that occurs between the vagina and rectum or bladder that is caused by prolonged obstructed labor, leaving a woman incontinent of urine, feces or both.

· Many adults would take advantage of the situation and prey on these young girls

· Rise in spread of HIV/AIDS among the youth

If and so the age of consent should be lowered, sex education as well as access to birth control should be made a priority. But is Kenya, a very conservative state ready for this?

For you my dear readers, air your thoughts by leaving a comment below.

HOW TO LIVE ON A BUDGET- 6 ESSENTIAL TIPS.

‘How I am I going to get by this month?’ is a very common phrase where I come from. Yes, I know we live in tough economic times with high unemployment, and meager wages. However, that does not mean that you cannot find a means to circumvent this. I will begin this article with a narrative.

An year ago, I was in a bind economically. I did have a job back that paid decently. However, without proper planning, I found myself overspending and was frequently behind in paying bills. Luckily, it never got the point whereby I was kicked out of my house, Thank God. But It was not until I found myself not being able to purchase some over the counter drug medication that I got my wake up call. Enough was enough. I sat myself down with pen and paper, and decided to draft a list writing down necessities and cutting out unnecessary items. On this note, I would like to share 6 tips that I have discovered along the way that would guide you my dear readers on how to live on a budget.

· Draft a budget list- This is the first tip. Take out your pen and paper and list what you want starting with the most to the least essential. This action will make you have a clear outline on the exact amount of money to spend. This list will also guide you in separating your needs from your wants. Remember that needs are things you cannot live without, while wants are more or less luxuries.

· Only bite not more than you can chew- It basically means that you should live within your means. Do not spend money on items that you know you cannot afford because you will just rake up unnecessary debts. Repaying these debts is a burden since it take a toll on your income. You might find yourself without money to buy necessities.

· Avoid impulse buying- Impulse buying is a disease that plagues most of us. However, the most effective remedy to this problem comes from within, its all about having self-discipline. The art of self-discipline makes you control of your actions; for instance, you will stick to your budget, and resist temptation.

· Cut back items/activities that are unnecessary- There are quite a number of items and activities that you can forgo since they are more or less a luxury. For instance, you can reduce the number of times you go out clubbing in a month. In do doing, you will find yourself having huge savings that you can redirect to other important ventures.

· Disposing items for example by selling them- I am very sure that there are quite a number of items like clothes you do not wear anymore or electronics you do not use in your house. Such items are a menace but you can sell them online through Ebay or garage sales to generate extra income. Such income can be very resourceful to your monthly budget.

· Save- I cannot stress how important savings are. Savings are important since they can serve as an emergency kitty instead of borrowing money. Remember that borrowing leads to unnecessary costs that can strain your budget.

Challenge yourself my dear readers by adhering to the 6 essential tips I have written above. I really would love to hear from you. Be free to share with me some additional tips I may have left out. My email is at supertechwritings@gmail.com

Thank you!

6 TIPS ON HOW TO GET YOUR MOJO BACK.

Earlier this year, I thought that I had hit rock bottom. Being unemployed and broke really took a toll on me. I was very depressed and basically felt like a total failure. I found myself losing interest in most things I enjoyed doing. However, I sprung back to my feet though it was tough at first. My recovery has made me obliged to share a few pointers to help someone going through a similar situation.

· Take a breather- This is foremost the most important tip. It is good to take a step back away from everything to clear your mind. Take this period to evaluate and decide what you want to do, and how you are going to do it.

· Never look back at past failures-This is a step in the right direction towards moving on. Past mishaps have a way of taking toll on your esteem. Therefore in order to improve your self worth forget about them, after all living in the past is very unhealthy.

· Avoid toxic environments- A toxic environment can include people who drag you down. Such people are obstacles towards your self improvement. They basically contribute nothing of substance to your life, some in fact put you down thereby affect your self esteem. Word of advice, cut them off from your life if possible!

· Try out new ideas- It doesn’t hurt to try out something new. Most probably your old ways of doing things were the largest contributors to your past failures. This new concept of doing something new and different would be a stepping stone to your success. A successful venture has an overall effect of boosting your morale. You yearn to do more every other day!

· Speak out- A problem shared, is a problem half solved. There is no shame in sharing your problems with a close friend. As a matter of fact, this friend of yours may end up giving you wise solutions that could get you out of your tough situation. The relief speaking up is also therapeutic.

· Seeking professional help if necessary- Consulting a trained professional is not a bad idea especially for those undergoing depression. Such a person has all the necessary training to assist you to get the root cause of your problem. In so doing, you can get a solution that will help you view yourself in a different light. A positive perception of oneself is a great morale boost.

In light of this, I would like to propose a 15 day challenge to you my dear readers. For the first 5 days, take this opportunity to write down all that is wrong with you life, and how it makes you feel. Do not hold back anything.

In the next 5 days, take a break. After the break, take another 5 days to map out possible solutions. I am certain that you will get something positive out this experience.

I would sincerely love to get some feed back from you my concerned readers. You can reach me through my email at supertechwritings@gmail.com

Have a lovely day!